Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) is a mental health condition that is characterized by an extreme focus on oneself and an inability to think about how other people feel. NPD is one of the main types of mental disorders that describe personality disorders (DSM-5 and ICD-11). People can have narcissistic traits, but it’s rare for someone to have all the signs in their most extreme form. But here’s what happens when they do. Here are the 5 Empathy for narcissist individual or sympathy for their loneliness
They don’t know how to love.
Narcissists have been hurt as kids. Their attachment to their parents or caregivers is broken when they are babies or young children. This is usually caused by neglectful, indulgent, or erratic/chaotic parenting. It makes it hard for them to trust people or make strong, loving bonds.
As adults, they don’t know how to love in a close way. It’s a victory and a way to prove who they are. They’ll fall in love with you and “love bomb” you, treating you like you’re a drug, a savior, or a gift to their life. It’s natural to be flattered by it, but keep in mind that their goal isn’t to tell you how great you are. Instead, they want to show that they are the Perfect Partner and can “get” whoever they target.
If a narcissist had a hard childhood, their partners may stay with them for too long, hoping that their love and support will make all the difference. Not at all. Narcissists may want to make deep, warm connections, but they can’t because they don’t know what they are. Imagine if you couldn’t love.
They can’t feel real feelings.
Narcissists do feel things, and some of them feel a lot. But if you look closely, you’ll see that they don’t have a wide range of emotions. Most of the time, they cry or get angry a lot (overt anger or simmering rage). They will also find it hard to show the right amount of emotion for the situation. Most of the time, they will show too much, too little, or no emotion at all.
“Childlike” is a good way to describe how narcissists show how they feel. They don’t know what to do because they’ve never been told what’s right and wrong or how much is too much. Their answers are just their best guesses or things they copied from somewhere else. This is sad because it means they will never feel real emotions and will never be able to understand how someone else feels deeply. They’ll never be able to give someone else their feelings. Imagine not being able to care about other people.
They feel a lot of shame.
Narcissists are afraid of being just like everyone else, so they try hard to be (or be seen as) extraordinary. Even though they show confidence and charm on the outside, they really, really don’t like who they are at their core. Any action that invalidates them, or that they think invalidates them, makes them feel deep shame. Imagine being very embarrassed about who you are.
They can’t take off their mask.
It’s funny to talk about masks now because we’re all wearing them. But the narcissist hides a weak sense of self-worth behind a mask that they wear day and night. The mask shows the world the face they want to show (beautiful, charming, smart, and well-adjusted), and they will protect and defend it at all costs.
When you start to see behind your narcissistic partner’s mask, you’re on shaky ground in a relationship. They are very defensive and would rather hurt you than be seen for who they really are. If you pull off the mask, you’ll see what they are like at their worst. What if you couldn’t say who you really are?
They will always be alone.
It’s lonely to be a narcissist. Their relationships aren’t deep; they can’t form strong bonds, and it’s hard for them to keep going, whether it’s with family, friends, or intimate partners. And because of their deep-seated insecurity, they don’t even like themselves.
If you are with a partner who is narcissistic, you can: True, it may take time and pain, but you will be able to leave them in the end. The narcissist is unable to. They will spend the rest of their lives by themselves.